Sunday, May 31, 2015
6 Things I am Still Getting Used To
In a few short months, I will be hitting a milestone--one year of life as an expat! This is crazy to me. On the one hand, it seems like just yesterday that I first stepped off the plane. On the other hand, at times my difficulty adjusting to this new way of life has made it seem as though time has slowed to a crawl. Through the good and the bad, I have stuck it out this long. Everyday life is considerably easier now than it was in the very beginning. Still, there are some things about life here that I haven't quite gotten used to yet.
Motorcycles/Motorbikes
Due to the cost of purchasing and maintaining a vehicle, many families, even "middle-class" families, can't afford to own one. Most people can afford to purchase and maintain a motorcycle. For this reason, these things are everywhere! Not only are motorcycles all over the place, they follow their own "rules of the road." They're sneaking up to pass you on the right. They're shooting up the dotted line between lanes toward the intersection ahead. They're riding up onto the sidewalk to avoid traffic. Some are carrying a few full tanks of propane for delivery. Most people do wear helmets, but they are often riding in shorts, tank tops, and flip flops. The part that is most difficult for me is seeing children, sometimes as young as 4 years old, holding on for dear life on the back of a motorcycle. It's so hard because I know that people are just doing what they have to do to get where they need to go. Still, in my previous job in the States, I worked on enough personal injury cases involving motorcycles to know just how badly injured motorcycle riders are when an accident does happen.
I'm actually still getting used to the road traffic in general. Roads are often in disrepair so you have to be on the lookout for huge potholes. Many of the highways around us are one lane in each direction. There is a big problem here with something they call "ultra passing." This is when a car, truck, or motorcycle, crossed the double yellow line to pass one or [oftentimes] more vehicles ahead of them. We have seen some close calls as cars swerve back into the lane to avoid oncoming traffic. There is a significant fine for this activity but people do it all the time.
Shopping/Personnel
Both grocery stores and clothing stores have a ton of staff scheduled to be working at any given time. The grocery store is often super crowded, and a lot of times it seems as though there are more employees than customers clogging the aisles. When you enter a clothing or toy store, an employee typically pounces on you immediately to find out what you are looking for and if they can help. Even when you say you're just browsing, they quietly follow along a few feet behind you, just in case. This is really irritating to me, as I'm a huge fan of window shopping. Back home, it was a real stress reliever to just head out and browse stores on a Sunday, often not buying anything. The stalking shop clerks take the fun right out of it.
Strays
I saw a news report recently that the population of stray dogs in my city is not far from starting to rival that of the human population! Every time I am out on a walk or we are heading downtown, I unconsciously start playing "Count the Strays" in my head. It's not uncommon to see a pack of 8 or more dogs roaming the streets together. Most of them seem friendly, though I always keep my distance, especially if I have my son with me. I was bitten in the abdomen by a neighbor's dog as a young child, and I'm very wary of strange animals. It's not super common, but there have been news reports about people being attacked and bitten by small gangs of dogs. A friend of mine who is an animal lover told me it is because there are no laws about purchasing and then abandoning animals in Brazil. Most are not spayed and neutered, so once they are on the street, it's a breeding free-for-all.
Noise
Before we moved here, we lived in a very quiet section of an apartment complex. We were up from the street and away from the parking lot, so it was a relatively quiet atmosphere for my new baby to sleep in. This neighborhood, not so much. At any given time, there are dogs barking, children yelling, roosters crowing, large construction trucks going over speed bumps, motorcycles gunning their engines, cars blaring advertisements for pharmacies and grocery stores, the milk truck making its run through the streets (at 6 & 9 a.m.) incessantly honking a bike horn. Nearly every other building on our street and in our neighborhood is in some stage of construction/renovation, so the buzz of electric saws and banging of hammers is an "all day, every day" thing. Even the birds, the beautiful birds, can be too much at times. On the weekends and during holidays or soccer championships, people play loud music and randomly light firecrackers. Even though the nights are colder now, I still have to sleep with the ceiling fan on to drown it all out.
Summer Year Round
Even though people recognize different seasons here [i.e. all the stores are featuring their fall and winter lines right now], to a girl from the Northeast US, it's all varying shades of what I call summer. Sure we have to wear socks and sometimes long pants around the house these days, but it's still getting up into the 80s outside, and you'll still get a mean burn if you head outside unprotected around midday. My goodness I miss the leaves changing, the snow falling, and the thaw in the spring.
Differing Concepts of Personal Space
Brazilians are very warm people. Greetings, even between people who don't know each other super well, involve hugs and sometimes kisses on the cheek. I come from an affectionate family, so this isn't a huge problem for me. However, Brazilians don't seem to have a concept of a person's "bubble" [I think most Americans will know what I mean when I say that]. I have been raised to believe that I have a so-called "bubble" of personal space around my body, as does every other individual on the planet. It makes me uncomfortable when people, especially strangers, get inside my bubble. This most often happens to me when standing in lines. The person behind me is standing so close that I can practically feel their breath on the back of my neck and hear them swallowing. I inch up to give myself the most minuscule of buffers, and they immediately fill the gap. It gives me chills just thinking about it.
So those are some of the silly everyday differences I have noticed and continue to try to deal with/accept as I go about my life here.
Disclaimer: I really don't mean to offend anyone with these observations. I know that the things I've talked about in this post could easily describe any number of places/people in the world, including the United States/Americans. I'm just comparing my own personal experiences in my old life with those in my new life.
Friday, May 29, 2015
10 Things I Love About My Husband
It's Health & Fitness Friday, but I'm going to post about something totally unrelated. This Sunday is a very special day for me and my husband. It marks six years since we became a couple! We have been through a lot together, and I'm so happy that we always make it out the other side stronger and a better team. I'm so thankful every day that I am married to my best friend. There are a million things that I love about my husband, but here are some of the first things that come to mind:
1. When he sings along to the radio while making dinner
3. That he sweeps and mops the floor because I hate to do it
4. When he asks if I want him to rinse while I wash
5. His sense of humor and his laugh when he thinks something is really funny
6. His willingness to help anyone in need
7. His ability to keep a cool head and look at things rationally
8. The way he dances with me
Monday, May 25, 2015
Baby's First Illness!!
It is officially autumn in Brazil. The overnight low temperatures have been dropping into the low 60's, and the long jammies have come out. Public service announcements about flu shots have started running and, as if on cue, Little Man came down with his first illness. And it was a doozie.
It all started when we visited the Farm and Little Man got to play with an older cousin. I noticed the little boy had a runny nose and was coughing a bit, but it was nearly impossible to keep the two of them apart. Within days of us returning home Little Man had the sniffles. His sleep was thrown for a loop and he was less interested in eating. A couple of days later and he had a fever, not severe, although he absolutely would not allow us anywhere near him with our thermometer even just to stick it under his arm. At first we thought maybe the fever was due to teething because he has his first molars coming in on the bottom. I noticed he was drooling a lot [like entire front of shirt soaked in drool] and read that could be a sign that it was painful for him to swallow.
Things came to a head the day after his fever first appeared when he woke from a nap inconsolable. He is normally a little cranky right when he wakes up, but this was crazy! Wailing! Screaming! Nothing worked to calm him down, not Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, not nothin'! He didn't even want to nurse [BIG red flag for a kid who lives to nurse]. While he was full-on-open-mouth-screaming, Hubby got a good look at the back of his throat and saw that it was red with white spots. We headed to the emergency treatment window at one of the local public hospitals and were seen pretty quickly [thank goodness] due to Little Man's operatics in the waiting area. The doctor quickly shined a flashlight in his mouth and wrote us a prescription for antibiotics. We weren't given an official diagnosis, but since he has responded to the antibiotics, I'm assuming it was probably strep throat [?].
Our whole routine has been turned upside-down by this. Little Man, who was previously falling asleep on his own when laid down at bedtime, was sleeping in our bed again and waking several times a night. My recent plan to start a gentle weaning process has gone out the window. We have had an overall clingy, sad, stressed-out toddler on our hands when he is normally an energetic little sunbeam. The hardest part for me has been the inability to make him feel better even with my old fail safe: nursing. Both Hubby and I have had to learn how to [try and] remain calm and just be there for our little guy while he wails and thrashes. Tough times. To all the parents out there who have had children with recurrent illnesses from a young age, I feel for you! I'm pretty sure we only managed to avoid Little Man getting sick before now because he doesn't go to daycare and actually has really limited interaction with other children.
Some things that have been helping: Vick's rub, honey, homemade chicken soup, and lots of extra snuggles. Of course now that Little Man's illness appears to be winding down, I'm starting to feel a little something coming on...Both my boys have had the flu shot, but I haven't gotten a card to get access to public health services yet.
How about you? How do you help your little one be as comfortable as possible while riding out an illness?
Saturday, May 23, 2015
Weekly Round-up
This was a low-key week for us since Little Man has been under the weather. To add insult to injury, he was also due for some vaccinations. He did not appreciate that one bit. Above is a picture of him sipping on chocolate milk minutes after he got four shots. Poor little guy.
We really like this little bakery/cafe in the city center called Veneza. They make a mean cafe latte.
He was really clingy and snuggly for the rest of the day and even fell asleep in my arms, which almost never happens. I hate when he has to get shots, but the snuggle factor is a bit of a perk in the aftermath.
This has been my go-to breakfast lately as I'm loosely following a "whole foods only" way of eating. It's a poached egg over sweet potato hash (with onions and green peppers), avocado, and coffee. It's really wholesome, tasty, and keeps me feeling full with enough energy to get through my mornings.
I'm pretty obsessed with this new purse I just bought. We have a trip coming up, and I needed a larger purse than my usual one, but not a huge purse, you know? This one is simple brown faux leather, no extra interior pockets, but holds a couple diapers, wipes, and my other essentials nicely. I love over the shoulder bags because there's no worries about it slipping off your shoulder, or someone grabbing it off you easily. It was only R$10.00 downtown. Not too shabby.
We stopped to visit some nearby cousins today and saw their home for the first time since arriving here. They've got two balconies on the front of their apartment with this great view of the city and the hills beyond.
So that's a taste of what we have been up to this week. Hope you enjoyed!
Friday, May 22, 2015
Why I Quit Coffee [and Why I Started Drinking It Again]
Like many other "responsible adults," I strive to make my health a priority. I generally try to watch what I eat and stay physically active. However, I'm also an admitted coffee addict. When I lived in the States and worked in an office, I would typically have 2 or 3 cups a day. Here in Brazil, I'm a stay-at-home mom sometimes treading water in a sea of skipped naps and random night wakings. One day it dawned on me that my daily habit had increased to 6 or 7 cups per day [!].
Enter Google. I started researching the potential effects of caffeine on both me and my son [could the coffee be causing the aforementioned skipped naps and night wakings?!]
What I learned is that the jury is still out on the coffee issue. I found a lot of conflicting information, i.e. coffee is good for you but only if you drink it black/only if you drink it first thing in the morning/only if you drink it blended with coconut oil. On the flip side, coffee is toxic for your body/it's taxing your adrenal system and raising your body's cortisol levels/you might as well hook your baby up to a coffee IV since so much is already getting to him via your breast milk!! The most significant factor for me was the potential effect of Little Man's sleep. So I bid adieu to my dear friend coffee...
For about 2 months.
I get it. Caffeine consumption is definitely an issue today considering that people aren't only consuming a lot of coffee, but also energy drinks and caffeinated sodas on top of it. But when I broke down and reintroduced it, there seemed to be no effect on Little Man. The way I see it, I don't drink alcohol, I don't smoke. Coffee is my vice. But it actually brings me quite a bit of joy and gives me a few minutes every morning and afternoon to slow down and enjoy myself. And why deprive myself of that? Within reason, of course. I'm drawing a hard line at 2 to 3 cups a day.
How about you? Have you ever tried to kick your coffee habit? How long did you last?
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
Changes Coming Soon!
Hello dear readers! It's been a while, huh? I, more than anyone, know that my posting has been sporadic. Not what I want at all. I have been thinking a lot and decided that I need to create some structure around this blog. Structure means, in my mind, better content (for you) and less stress (for me).
So, I'm going to try and follow in the footsteps of many a blogger who has come before me and try my hand at weekly theme posts:
Mommy Mondays
Health & Fitness Fridays and
Expat Sundays
The fact of the matter is that a great deal of my life and my brain space revolves around my role as a mother. I also hope to keep myself accountable for my health and fitness goals by documenting them here in one way or another. Expat posts will be limited to once a week because, let's face it, this is real life here--I'm not on vacation and we don't go on adventures every day.
I hope to churn out some interesting posts for all of you who continue to read this blog of mine. Please, as always, feel free to comment to let me know what kinds of things you would like to read about.
XO,
Lorin
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